As a parent, if your good intention to help your son’s or daughter’s marriage is going pear shaped it is better to step back. Why is this so you may ask?  If you do not step back, and soon enough as well, your good intention will now become the basis for dissolution in your child’s marriage. If your son’s or daughter’s spouse does not welcome your intervention(s) no matter how good and rewarding they are, then leave it. Even if you do intend to still help them with a good intention of course maybe the time is not right yet.

Some in-laws today have indirectly contributed to a marriage break up.  This is more so if the couple have given them room to do so. Unfortunately even after the breakup of their child’s marriage they still find it difficult to realise they have done anything wrong. Take a look again Mama and Baba that your son/daughter is hurting silently!

However if a couple is closely united as one, no in-law would be able to intervene in their marriage.

A man cannot claim his parents forced him to leave his wife and marry another woman if he was not equally interested. If your parents had wrongly suggested it to you it is your job to let them know that you love and would want to stay married to your wife. If you give them the sign that you are not happy in your marriage then you are doing nothing but encouraging disputes between your wife and your family. You should also realise that your wife’s happiness is your and if your wife is not happy it will affect your own happiness as well. The same applies to a woman that runs to her family for ungodly advice against her marriage.

So, as a parent if your good intention is going awry then it is time to step back, pray, reassess the situation and yourself.

As  a man or woman, and you are concerned about your parents or in-laws involvement  in your home, then stop and check if you have given them the room to do so. An African proverb interprets as “If a wall is not cracked a gecko cannot go through it.”

Is there a crack in your marriage? Seal it before you face the consequences.

God bless you.

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